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Arathy's avatar

You're right, it’s a nice thought, but let’s be honest, unless you have a ton of time, you won’t be able to read everything from all the writers you follow. That’s why it’s best to stick to subscribing to people you actually want to read and interact with.

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Lidija P Nagulov's avatar

I wonder about this a lot. I really don’t want to have people feeling that when I follow them they need to follow me back. The exchange of courtesy is definitely a weird element to being so directly linked to your audience - naturally a parasocial relationship will develop. When a writer publishes a book or a journalist writes a column usually they will not be so directly involved in a conversation with their readers about it as we are here, they’re certainly not obliged to… of course the incentive changes when those people are in charge of your ‘success’ here, so to speak. You want to be a good host, because you want people to pull up a chair and stay a while.

But I have never liked the ‘tit for tat’ of social media because it makes me doubt if people like - or even read - what I’m writing or do they just want to plump up their numbers or be nice to me since I followed them or commented on their work. Also I think it starts to be counterproductive once you are following too many people, you stop being able to read the stuff you really wanna read because there is too much everything. I’m only subscribed to around 60 Substacks by now and it’s already a lot of stuff to read.

Anyway personally I’m ok being a reader in some relationships and a writer in others. I was thinking the other day how weird it would be if two people became each other’s paid subscribers, they would basically be back at square zero 😅

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